Although I left Northern Ireland over three decades ago, it is still home. And, it is still the place and time from which it is impossible to emerge unscathed. None of us got away scot-free.
With an apprehension I can’t quite explain, I watched Say Nothing, the series based on the best-selling book by New Yorker investigative journalist Patrick Radden Keefe. Predictably, within the first few moments of the first episode, familiar feelings of revulsion and sadness rose in my throat. It is a harrowing scene that recreates the abduction of Jean McConville from her home in Divis Flats, Belfast, in 1972. A widow and mother of ten, she was one of the Disappeared, people abducted, murdered, and secretly buried during the Troubles. The Troubles. A reductive and casual caption for an era that left in its ongoing wake, so many lost, wounded, and emotionally scarred lives.
It wasn’t until I was far from home and in the middle of my adult life that I realized I was probably a Child of The Troubles even though I was always, by nothing other than luck, in the right place at the right time. It was from a safe distance that I learned to recognize the dull thunder-clap of a bomb, the tremble of our kitchen window in its wake, and the stench of days-old smoke from a pile of rubble that used to be a hotel, a supermarket, a restaurant. In one way, the Troubles were incidental in my daily life, but in another, those atrocities stayed with me—the dates and places, the names of victims: The Miami Showband, Bloody Sunday, La Mon Restaurant, Crossmaglen, The Miami Showband Massacre, Kingsmills, Internment, the bombing of Omagh and Enniskillen, Greysteel, Frizzell’s fish shop, Loughinisland.
The list goes on, hearts grows numb …
Physically untouched by this string of horrors, but changed nonetheless, the images are indelible in the storehouse of my memory. Father Daly waving a blood-stained white handkerchief; the blood on Market Street in the heart of Omagh’s little market town; the platform boot on the side of the road near Banbridge; mourners at the Ballymurphy funeral on our little black and white television.
So many names. So many ghosts among us.
The Troubles were part and parcel of everyday life. Normalized, but not normal. It was not normal to wait for a boy to check under his car for explosives before he took me to the cinema. A college student who served as a part-time police officer, he was considered a legitimate target. Why would I get in the car knowing that it might explode? I don’t know. I know I should have been afraid, and I know I would be afraid if it happened today. My God. What if this happened to my daughter?
Over fifty years later, we have a better idea of the impact of repeated, extensive trauma on children who grew up in Northern Ireland during those years; trauma that manifests as PTSD, depression, anxiety, and phobias. Research completed over a decade ago by the Poverty and Social Exclusion project found that during The Troubles, 10% of adults lost a close relative, 11% of adults lost a close friend, over a third witnessed a bomb explosion, and 3% of adults had witnessed a murder. Three of the 17 people disappeared have never been found. In a country the size of Connecticut, that’s a lot of people and a lot of suffering. Statistics—“human beings with the tears wiped away”—can only hint at the true toll. Compounded by relentless pressures from all sides to say nothing about the terrible things that happened during the Troubles the trauma remains raw and unprocessed—for victims, for perpetrators, and for future generations.
Speaking at a panel discussion on the impact of conflict on both civilians and combatants during Creative Brain Week in Dublin in 2023, Dr. Ciaran Mulholland, consultant psychiatrist with the Northern Health and Social Care Trust, said a 2020 study showed one in 20 young people in Northern Ireland had a stress-related mental health disorder.
If a young person’s family has been impacted by the Troubles, they are more likely to suffer from depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder or engage in self-harming behaviour
Throughout the nine episodes of Say Nothing, there were moments where I felt not much different than the 10 year old girl I used to be, sitting in the back seat of the car not knowing the words for what I was feeling when the soldiers questioned my dad; or, listening to a man on the radio tell us about the massacre of The Miami Showband or the bombing of the La Mon restaurant.
I learned, like everybody else, how to live within the trauma of The Troubles, but I did not learn how to stop the past from invading my present.
For my birthday last year, my boyfriend took me to San Diego for a Peter Frampton concert. A lifetime away from my homeplace, I had last seen Peter Frampton perform at the RDS in Dublin, opening for Chris de Burgh and Janis Ian.
I wore a silver skirt for the occasion, a throwback to the 1980s and long-ago rock and roll summers in Dublin. But these were not the memories that came rushing to me as I waited to buy a T-shirt at the merchandise stall. When a concert-goer complimented my skirt, I found myself immediately transported back to a 1970s afternoon at the Antrim Forum, a new leisure centre that boasted a swimming pool.
I am outside, sitting on the ground, and a policeman is wrapping a silver Mylar blanket around my little shoulders. There had been a bomb scare in the town, and we all had to hurry home. I remember nothing other than being small and shivering, running, still wet from the pool in my blue swimsuit. I remember the shiny, silver Mylar blanket. I remember running home. I don’t remember being particularly afraid. I don’t remember if anyone talked to me about it.
Reflecting on the Say Nothing series along with the likes of Lisa McGee’s Derry Girls, Colin Davidson’s Silent Testimony, Susan McKay’s important commentary, or Kenneth Branagh’s film Belfast dedicated to “the ones who stayed, the ones who left, and all the ones who were lost,” I see an opportunity for those of us who know better to do better.
In the parlance of home, we have an opportunity to catch ourselves on, to catch our own humanity in others. With this mind, I’m wondering if we could go back in time, what would we say to the children we used to be? What would we tell them about security checkpoints and bomb damage sales in Belfast and why we didn’t go to the same schools as the children who went to a different church on Sunday? Would we be able to explain why somebody would time a bomb to detonate in a restaurant where we used to go with our parents for chips? I’m wondering what we would have to say for ourselves?